First print this out and work on it
The way in which we talk to ourselves has a significant bearing on the way in which we interact with the world around us. Controlling my Self Talk was a major change to my life.
For the first part of this exercise just consider the way in which that little voice inside your head talks to you. Your SELF TALK. Monitor the following for a day:-
How often do you praise yourself?
How often do you criticise yourself constructively?
Write down what you tell yourself when things are going badly.
When things are going well.
If you are like I was then some of the things you say to yourself will be very uncomplimentary. In fact if a friend said them you would be very upset!
Now this is so easy to change. First remember:-
There is no failure only Feedback.
Then begin to place these words in to your mental feedback when things are not quite right,
“The next time I will ( the action ) ( as you would like it to be) .”
“ The next time I will do it more carefully.”
Or “Next time I will leave on time.”
Each time you respond to yourself by placing a positive outcome in to your future. The mistake is used to move you forward in a positive way. Always positive!
The reasoning behind this is the understanding that the unconscious mind moves towards the things we think about. It does not differentiate between negatives and positives. For example try not to think of clowns riding bikes.
See / feel / hear / understand what I mean.
Having read this far and successfully carried out the exercises you are ready to look at some other areas. Next we will look at some uses of language.
The way in which we use language and listen to other people is dependent upon our past experience and the fact that all situations cause one to distort, delete and generalise the information received. For instance how many times have you disagreed with someone about the content and appreciation of a film? All experience is fitted into what we already know and then altered as it is reinterpreted. This is all quite normal, remember respect the other person’s map of the world.